Personal Requirements Quiz

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Instructions: Read the scenarios below – if the situation rings true for you, check the corresponding need that most resonates with you. You are looking for the underlying need that drives the behavior. If the scenario isn't true for you or wouldn't apply to you, check "Does not apply" or skip it and move on to the next scenario. If the scenario is true for you, but none of the needs listed sound right, skip it or check "Does not apply." You will probably skip quite a few that don't apply. On the other hand, don't worry if you have checked quite a few of the needs. That is perfectly normal as we all have needs – some more than others. If you aren't sure about a question, ask a friend or family member who knows you well how they think you'd answer. Please set aside about 20 to 30 minutes to take this quiz. Please make sure you can take the quiz in one sitting as you will not be able to save your answers and come back later. At the end of this quiz your top four Personal Requirements will be emailed to you. Please note: If you have already taken The Emotional Index Quiz, there is no need to take the Personal Requirements Quiz as you will already know your top four Personal and Emotional Needs. The Personal Requirements Quiz is simply worded for use in a business or professional context.
1. You need a balance of work and play in your life in order to feel your best. If you work too much, you lose your sense of humor. If you play too much, you tend to get lazy or apathetic.
2. You are at a meeting and two people start to argue. You feel uncomfortable and either try to smooth things over or shy away from the conflict.
3. You are always doing favors for other people, even at your own personal expense.
4. You keep others at arm's length because you don't want to get hurt.
5. You are the kind of person who goes out of your way to help others, even though you don't really have the time.
6. You are constantly sending thoughtful notes, emails, or gifts to your colleagues.
7. You hate being interrupted.
8. People don’t take what you say seriously.
9. You feel like you are drowning-there are so many things vying for your attention that you have no time to pursue your true calling.
10. You get irritable and cranky if your home is messy.
11. You can’t think clearly until your desk is cleaned off.
12. You find yourself volunteering in the community homeless shelter, the church, or some other charitable organization, but your family doesn't appreciate all you do for them and the work you do in the community.
13. When your boss micro-manages you, you feel suffocated. You think, "Why can’t she/he trust me to do the job right?"
14. It annoys you that your spouse/partner doesn't do things for you, like loading the dishwasher unless you ask him/her.
15. You feel (fill in the blank) when your spouse or partner does small things around the house without your asking.
16. You get anxious or restless when you don't have a project to work on. You enjoy pushing the limits to see what can be done.
17. You get frustrated with bureaucracy that slows you down from getting results.
18. You find yourself eating out of the fridge or in front of the TV even though you are not really hungry - this may be related to personal or professional.
19. People don't appreciate your point of view. You make a statement and nobody seems to hear you or understand you.
20. You always have to have the remote control.
21. You can't stand it when your boss or colleague takes credit for what you've done.
22. You get very frustrated and/or upset if you don't get the recognition you deserve at work.
23. You feel lonely and removed from people and lose the desire for sex when you are not in a relationship.
24. You get furious/hurt/angry or disappointed if you find out your friends make plans without inviting you, even if you know you can't attend. You still want to be invited regardless.
25. You get really upset or annoyed if people do things or make plans without your knowledge.
26. You have plenty of money in the bank, but you still don’t feel secure. It is never enough somehow.
27. Nobody loves losing, but you really can't stand it. You have to win, even if it is just Monopoly or a card game for fun.
28. People say that you are too opinionated or bull-headed because you have to get your point across.
29. You have been known to tell your spouse or partner which way to turn out of the driveway.
30. You like it when your boss, family and friends approve of what you do and find it disturbing if they don't.
31. At parties and social gatherings, you need to be the center of attention and will tell jokes, sing songs, do silly stuff, or wear clothes that are guaranteed to attract attention.
32. You find it hard to do nothing and prefer, even when on vacation, to work on some project or another.
33. If you don't have at least ten minutes of quiet time a day to yourself, the rest of the day is off kilter.
34. It is vital for you to be in a position of power or authority. You need to be the one in charge whether at work or at home.
35. You can't be in a relationship unless your partner/spouse is faithful to you. An open marriage wouldn't work for you.
36. You are a perfectionist and can't abide it when things go afoul.
37. You find yourself shopping several times a week. You get a high from shopping, but then feel guilty afterwards because you are buying on credit and know you can't pay off your credit card balance. Still you continue to shop, knowing you really shouldn't.
38. You go into restaurants even when you are not planning to eat there, just to see if there is anyone you know dining there.
39. You can't sleep at night unless you've checked to make sure all the doors are locked.
40. You have a stockpile of canned goods and household supplies on hand.
41. You feel compelled to always do the right thing, no matter what.
42. Although you hate to admit it, you don't go on a second date with a person if they didn't pick up the tab on the first date. You much prefer being treated and feel that they can't be all that interested in you if they didn't treat.
43. You love gossip. You can’t resist passing on a juicy tidbit.
44. You naturally expect people to bring presents to your birthday party and feel miffed if someone doesn't bring one.
45. You would never eat at a restaurant where the service was lousy, even though the food was superb.
46. You need to know that your lover/partner/spouse desires you. It isn't enough that he/she/they says so. You want demonstrable evidence before you are satisfied.
47. You tend to find yourself in messes or problems, but fortunately, someone comes along to rescue you or help you out.
48. You ask leading questions in order to get a compliment, such as, "How do you like my dress/suit/hair?"
49. You need a commitment before you can do your best work or be your best self-whether that is a job contract or a marriage contract.
50. After a bad day, nothing makes you feel better than being held tenderly.
51. Life feels blah if you don’t have a cause to rally behind.
52. You frequently write letters to the editor to correct injustices and wrongs.
53. You have to have the last word in an argument.
54. You can’t stand being wrong.
55. You go the extra mile when you have someone to encourage you.
56. Puns annoy you.
57. You prefer to give rather than receive presents because you don't want to feel obligated.
58. You always have extra presents on hand to give as gifts.
59. You feel compelled to tell all and reveal everything even when it probably isn't in your best interest to do so at times.
60. You refuse to take money from your friends or family, even though it would make your life easier.
61. You can’t stand taking orders from someone else.
62. If an error occurs, you quickly take responsibility, even if you were only partially at fault or not at fault.
63. You can’t stand working on projects that you can’t complete yourself.
64. You love lists and make them every day. You get joy from checking things off a list.
65. If you don't meditate every day, you can't function at your peak.
66. Your favorite days are jam-packed from start to finish. You relish the sense of accomplishment.
67. You always go above and beyond the call of duty at both work and social occasions.
68. You volunteer to cook dinners for the local church group or soup kitchen.
69. You donate a lot of your time and energy to charities or environmental organizations.
70. You need to have all the facts before you are comfortable making a decision.
71. You tend to break the rules or make up your own rules.
72. You are at a company banquet, and, rather than see all the leftovers go to waste, you ask the wait staff to bring you a few containers so you can take the leftovers home.
73. You will work extra hours if you know that your boss values your efforts.
74. You would never ask for a doggie bag to take home the leftovers at a fancy restaurant. It just wouldn’t look good or be cool.
75. You prefer to eat food that comes in its own neat little package (yogurt, bananas, frozen dinners, instant oatmeal).
76. You always balance your checkbook every month to the penny.
77. You tend not to speak up at a party, if you know your views would cause an argument.
78. You don’t like it when people don’t confirm receipt of your emails or phone calls.
79. You never leave the house without making sure your hair looks good, your make-up is on, and you are well-dressed.
80. You proudly display all the awards, plaques, certificates or other forms of reward or recognition or achievement in your home or office.
81. You feel treasured when your mate holds your hand, whispers sweet nothings in your ear, or makes other intimate gestures. If he/she/they doesn’t do these things, you feel something is missing or he/she/they doesn’t really like you.
82. You love to get gifts. It doesn’t have to be anything big, little presents and surprises are great! If you don’t receive them from a loved one, you feel a bit neglected or unloved.
83. You enjoy parties and going to social events on occasion, but find you really need some time alone to recharge. You may have to step outside for a breather at large social events.
84. At holidays and other family gatherings, you get exhausted by the socializing and usually need to go out for a walk alone, or leave the room to read a book or watch TV.
85. You don’t like asking for directions and hate being told where to go by back seat drivers.
86. You tend to get obsessed with whatever you are currently doing, but find you are actually happier and more productive if you balance work and play.
87. You don’t like it when people touch you, even though you know they mean well or are just trying to comfort you.
88. You love getting and giving hugs, you frequently reach out to touch someone’s hand or arm, especially if they are feeling sad or hurt.
89. When you throw a party or event, you always make sure to include everyone. You know how horrible it is to be left out.
90. If you make a mistake, you take it very hard, even personally.
91. You need people to be perfectly clear and can’t stand it when they mumble or ramble on.
92. You always say what is on your mind, even though it isn’t always appropriate.
93. You get upset, concerned, or angry if someone doesn’t fully communicate with you. You’d rather know the real truth even if it is hard to hear.
94. When traveling, you pack along all the comforts of home. In fact, you’d rather not travel if you can’t be comfortable.
95. You find you must keep the upper hand in most situations.
96. It’s your way, or you’ll find someone else who will do it your way.
97. You are known as the person who gets projects completed on time.
98. You don’t respect people who are disorganized or messy.
99. You must do your duty to your church, family, and country.
100. While some people seem to thrive on noise and chaos, you really can’t think clearly or work effectively in a noisy environment.
101. You always tell the truth, even though it might be easier or better not to.
102. You would never take even so much as a postage stamp from the office for personal use.
103. You make a concerted effort to fit in, regardless of the situation.
104. A balanced life? That's for wimps.
105. You are overly generous and insist on treating friends and family, even though you really can't afford it.
106. If you are out to dinner with a date, you insist on paying your way, even if your date wants to treat you.
107. You have to be the boss, even if that means owning your own business or company.
108. You play full out to win. You don’t let others beat you if you can help it.
109. You aren’t a very gracious loser. You really hate losing and have a hard time disguising the fact.
110. You prefer to facilitate a meeting, even if it isn't your meeting.
111. You don’t feel loved if your partner doesn’t cuddle up to you or caress you.
112. When stressed, you usually pick up the phone and talk things over with a friend.
113. Your friends say you have a fear of commitment, but you are really afraid of losing your independence or control.
114. You can’t stand it if your partner reads the paper at meal times instead of talking or listening to you.
115. You often reach out and touch people.
116. People may say that it is the thought that counts, but you aren’t impressed by small tokens or trinkets, you want your loved ones to give you real jewelry or expensive gifts.
117. You often come up and give your partner a hug or massage his or her shoulders while they are at the computer.
118. 

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